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Below you will find a list of books that I have used personally on my healing journey, as well as other titles that I have recently discovered and feel could be quite useful to other survivors. I have been blessed to have been included in helping to author a collaborative group book that contains excerpts from many survivors, which I have also included here. I will be adding to, and perhaps editing this list over time as I find new books that I feel are useful to most survivors.
Disclaimer. I am not affiliated with, paid by, or in any other way compensated by for providing links to the book titles you will find in this section. I simply believe in sharing the knowledge, resources, and help that I have accrued over the last two decades, and want you to be able to easily access the books from my recommended reading list.
1. Perhaps THE definitive book for assisting survivors of abuse heal from their past, The Courage To Heal, by Laura Davis and Ellen Bass,  
is top on my list. I found this book when I was 18 years old, and without it I certainly would have struggled for much longer before beginning the heal from my abuse.
Excerpt from

The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and a map of the healing journey to every woman who was sexually abused as a child—and to those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible.

Weaving together personal experience with professional knowledge, the authors provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, and support throughout the healing process. Readers will feel recognized and encouraged by hundreds of moving first-person stories drawn from interviews and the authors' extensive work with survivors, both nationally and internationally.
Excerpt from
Understanding the past-and breaking free from it-is the key to surviving childhood sexual abuse. This book can help ease the journey, with discussions of the damage caused by abuse; anxiety, fears, and nightmares; depression and low self-esteem; eating disorders and negative body image; feelings toward the abuser, and how to overcome problems and work toward prevention.
Excerpt from
As a trained therapist and sufferer of sexual abuse herself, Beverly Engel knows that there is probably no trauma a child can suffer that makes her or him feel more alone than sexual abuse. This helpful book offers hope for recovery with exercises, visualizations, and techniques that support you through a seven-step program, that will aid you in: facing the truth, releasing your anger, confronting those responsible with facts and feelings, forgiving yourself, and more healing advice and information.

4. From my good friend and author, I recommed the personal story of Kate Swift, This Tangled Web 
Excerpt from the author:
This Tangled Web' is one woman's journey from victim to survivor. It is the untangling of a web created by the pain of childhood sexual abuse. The author brings you to the centre of the web through her poetry and art, allowing you to see the journey through her eyes. This book has been written with other survivors in mind. It was always Kate's desire to one day use her poetry for the benefit of other survivors. Remembering her own unquenchable thirst for knowledge and something to relate to...this is one woman's attempt to untangle the web and help other survivors to achieve this too.
5. Silent No More is the group collaboration I mentioned at the top of this section. While I am proud to play a role in helping to bring this book to completion, I would recommend it even if I weren't included. It is a moving, emotional collection of stories from people just like you and me: survivors.
Excerpt from the founder of RSOSA, Kate Swift: 

This is not ‘just’ a book however; this is a powerful, moving and painfully honest look at surviving childhood sexual abuse. This book is about a group of survivors and those who support them coming together to be a voice for the voiceless…to shed more light on what it takes to survive…and perhaps most importantly of all to show that you can go on to achieve, inspire, enrich not only your life but others around you too. This book was on my heart because I often see amazing pieces of art and writing by others. I wanted them to have a platform on which to share their talent but also their voice. As children we lived in our silent, individual abusive situations. As adults we now come together and are a voice not just for ourselves but for the future generations to learn from. We have been mindful to share both light and shade within the pages of our book. We hope others will benefit from the experiences we have shared, our healing tips and inner most thoughts.